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From Victimhood, to Victim, to Survivor and the Chains of Broken Systems Dealing with DV

Special to the Newport (OR) News Times: Part three of Three-Part monthly series on domestic abuse Part One: Elephants in the Room: battered women are our sisters, mothers, friends, wives Part Two: Stages of Grief, Disempowering the Abuser, Healing I’m in the courtroom at the plea bargain hearing – aka diversionary sentencing. My friend is […]
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Stages of Grief, Disempowering the Abuser, Healing

When the bureaucratic well runs dry, you as survivor of DV are on your own, especially when family and friends are riding in their own Private Idaho. Preface: According to band member Kate Pierson, “Private Idaho” was inspired by the feeling of being trapped and isolated, like a prisoner in solitary confinement. The song originated […]
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Elephants in the Room: battered women are our sisters, mothers, friends, wives

The most difficult aspect of writing about BWS — battered wife syndrome or intimate partner violence — is that as a man, I have to embrace reality: gender violence is not just fostered by the socialization of men to be more powerful than women, but for so many judges, lawyers, DAs and the public, this […]