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Tag: Abuse

  • Transparency of the Epstein files is Mere Bragging Unless There is Accountability

    Releasing the Epstein Files, without holding the exposed individuals and institutions accountable, will embolden rapists and pedophiles. Transparency alone is not justice. If we don’t hold these monsters accountable, we will have allowed them to brag to all the world that they got away with rape, pedophilia, and human trafficking. Transparency without accountability tells victims, […]

  • In the Wake of the Epstein Files Release, Remember that Abuse Is Everywhere

    When I first came to Japan in 1989, a few Japanese actually told me that there was no child abuse in Japan. That shows that there was little consciousness of this social problem in those days. But I would guess that most people in the U.S. and Japan, of my generation at least, have been […]

  • Practicing Vulnerability: A Black Man’s Struggle toward Understanding and Belonging

    From an early age, most boys absorb the message—whether stated directly or modeled by the men and women in their lives—that to be a man is to be tough. I learned that early. In my household, crying got me grounded or spanked, or both. And, of course, I was expected not to cry about the […]

  • Narcissism, Misogyny, Racism, and Fascism: Not Just a Trump thing

    Narcissism, Misogyny, Racism, and Fascism: Not Just a Trump thing

    Note: This article below appears in the Lincoln County Leader, and I am waiting for the same rejoinder that the little county of Lincoln is running each Wednesday before my radio show, Finding Fringe, to appear on the Editorial page of a newspaper over 100 years old: Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this […]

  • Social Media Sirenading Us to Death

    Social Media Sirenading Us to Death

    The Sirens and Ulysses by William Etty, 1837 Just when I figured I had plumbed the depths of capitalism’s toxicity, I came across yet more proof; in fact, the apotheosis of toxicity. The toxicity to end all toxicity. Chris Hayes’ The Sirens’ Call: How Attention Became the World’s Most Endangered Resource (2025) describes how, with […]

  • Coming to Terms with a Lifetime of Trauma While in Prison

    I am a Black man in prison, and I want to talk about trauma. I want us all to be able to talk about trauma. I’m here because when I was a teenager and young man, I made many bad life choices involving drugs and violence. Living with the consequences of my actions is not […]

  • From Victimhood, to Victim, to Survivor and the Chains of Broken Systems Dealing with DV

    From Victimhood, to Victim, to Survivor and the Chains of Broken Systems Dealing with DV

    Special to the Newport (OR) News Times: Part three of Three-Part monthly series on domestic abuse Part One: Elephants in the Room: battered women are our sisters, mothers, friends, wives Part Two:  Stages of Grief, Disempowering the Abuser, Healing I’m in the courtroom at the plea bargain hearing – aka diversionary sentencing. My friend is […]

  • Stages of Grief, Disempowering the Abuser, Healing

    Stages of Grief, Disempowering the Abuser, Healing

    When the bureaucratic well runs dry, you as survivor of DV are on your own, especially when family and friends are riding in their own Private Idaho. Preface: According to band member Kate Pierson, “Private Idaho” was inspired by the feeling of being trapped and isolated, like a prisoner in solitary confinement. The song originated […]

  • Elephants in the Room: battered women are our sisters, mothers, friends, wives

    Elephants in the Room: battered women are our sisters, mothers, friends, wives

    The most difficult aspect of writing about BWS — battered wife syndrome or intimate partner violence — is that as a man, I have to embrace reality: gender violence is not just fostered by the socialization of men to be more powerful than women, but for so many judges, lawyers, DAs and the public, this […]

  • We Are in Collective Alexithymia

    We Are in Collective Alexithymia

    No words for emotions — alexithymia New psychology research shows maltreatment in childhood is linked to alexithymia in adulthood. Its etymology comes from Ancient Greek. The word is formed by combining the alpha privative prefix ἀ- (a-, meaning ‘not’) with λέξις (léxis, referring to ‘words’) and θῡμός (thȳmós, denoting ‘disposition,’ ‘feeling,’ or ‘rage’). The term can […]

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